How To Communicate Effectively With Your Spouse

December 7, 2023

PACIFIC MEDIATION GROUP PRESENTS: STEPS TO DELIVERING UNCOMFORTABLE COMMUNICATIONS BEFORE COMMUNICATION

1. CLEAN THE EMOTIONAL SLATE OF FEELINGS: JUDGEMENT, GUILT, FEAR, PRIDE, ANGER

a. RESPONSIBLY EXPRESS AND RELEASE FEELINGS WITH A CONFIDANT OR IN YOUR JOURNAL BEFORE TALKING WITH THE PERSON.

b. WRITE “FORGIVENESS IS FOR” AND LIST WHAT YOU WANT TO FORGIVE THE OTHER PERSON FOR AND INCLUDE YOUR OWN BEHAVIORS THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO FORGIVE. (WHATEVER YOU ARE READY TO FORGIVE AT THIS TIME: THE MORE YOU FORGIVE THE MORE COMMUNICATION CAN BE DELIVERED FROM A LOVING PLACE AT THIS TIME.) 2. REVIEW THESE STEPS

3. REVIEW WHAT YOU WANT TO COMMUNICATE, AND ASSESS THE TIME IT MAY TAKE FOR THE PROCESS DURING THE COMMUNICATION

1. TELL THE PERSON:

a. YOU WANT TO DELIVER A COMMUNICATION.

b. HOW MUCH TIME YOU DESIRE

c. ASK: “IS THIS A GOOD TIME?” IF NOT, SET UP A MUTUALLY GOOD TIME. 2. TELL THEM YOUR GREATEST FEARS ABOUT DELIVERING THE COMMUNICATION.

3. TELL THEM WHAT YOU WANT FROM THEM IDEALLY DURING THE COMMUNICATION. 4. TELL THEM THE WHOLE TRUTH, AND DELIVER YOUR COMMUNICATION FROM A LOVING PLACE UNTIL YOU FEEL COMPLETE. 5. HEAR THEIR RESPONSE WITHOUT INTERRUPTING. ACKNOWLEDGE THEIR POSITION AND WHATEVER RESPONSE THEY GIVE. IT MAY NOT BE YOUR IDEAL, BUT IT IS THEIR TRUTH.


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